If your sibling is heading off to college for the first time, chances are you're feeling a mix of excitement, pride and maybe a little confusion about what comes next. You’re not alone in this.
Although a large change is happening in your life, it may be a chance to redefine your sibling relationship in new and deeper ways. You’ll both grow during this time, and your bond can expand too.
When a sibling moves out, even temporarily, the house feels emptier. There may be fewer late-night laughs, no more casual arguments over the remote and possibly a bedroom that suddenly becomes strangely quiet. This shift can be emotional. Even if you weren’t close to your sibling, don’t be surprised if you find yourself missing them. Whether it’s their jokes, advice or just having someone to share snacks with, little things will remind you they’re not around. This is a sign of love—not weakness.
Thankfully, technology makes it easier than ever to stay in touch. Consider setting up a time to FaceTime or video chat every week or two. Students often tell us that they appreciate receiving a random meme or funny video when there isn’t time for a long conversation. When discussing the topic with our staff, one student shared that her family has a group chat where her mom sends pet photos and siblings send life updates. Also, if your parents are sending a care package, you can add a picture or handwritten note that will be appreciated.
This is also a time for you to grow as an individual. With your sibling away, you might notice that you get more attention from your parents, enjoy a quieter home or even assume more responsibilities. It’s a great opportunity to explore your own interests, deepen or develop new friendships, or step into new leadership roles at school or in your community.
Take advantage of the time you have with your sibling this summer. This is a great opportunity to discuss the inevitable changes that your relationship will face. Set aside time to spend together, make memories and document the fun times. Consider starting a tradition that you can continue each time that your sibling is home for breaks. Remember that you're an important part of their support system, just as they are part of yours.